Only for a week, but we had a great time.
The resort was divided by a fairly busy road, and the lady in the photo was one of a team who used their stop signs to help visitors get safely from one side of the resort to the other.
The process was fun to watch, because drivers clearly considered stopping to be optional.
Anyway, after a few days I walked to the side of the road, and found that the ladies with their stop signs weren’t there.
Just for a moment I wondered how on earth I was going to cross the road without them.
It was a ridiculous thought, because I have lived in several large cities during my lifetime, and I am perfectly capable of crossing a busy road.
The experience reminded me of how easily we can succumb to learned helplessness.
The ladies with their signs, and their instructions on when to wait and when to cross, had quickly disabled my own ability to cross the road on my own.
This disabling of our own ability to get things done applies to our lives as freelancers as much as it does to crossing busy roads, or anything else.
For example, if you are used to getting ongoing projects from a particular company, and then that source of work suddenly dries up, you might feel a moment of panic, believing you are not capable of picking up new work on your own.
But you are. You got that first client on your own.
Or you might have a mentor who always looks over your work before you submit it. If the mentor suddenly becomes unavailable, you might think you are no longer able to confidently submit your work.
The same goes for when you are part of a support group or mastermind group.
In other words, whenever we enjoy the support of others in acquiring new work and getting it done, we are likely to feel some anxiety when that support is no longer available.
The trick is to make sure you snap out of that place of learned helplessness.
Because, in fact, you CAN do it on your own.
You can cross the road, get that new client and submit great work.
About the author: Nick Usborne is an online writer, copywriter, author and coach. Read more…
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