Let’s say you’re not a very social person. Antisocial even.
When you go to a local bar, you don’t talk to anyone. And people rarely talk to you because, well, you give off a vibe that you’re not interested in listening to them.
It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Doesn’t even mean you don’t like people. It just means you’re not social. So people leave you alone.
Now let’s say you do have one friend, and that friend suggests you try a different bar. It seems this second bar is a really, really social place. Your friend thinks it might change things for you.
So you go to the second bar, and you don’t talk to anyone. They get that same vibe of yours and leave you alone.
The point being, in spite of his or her good intentions, your friend should have known that a change in bars wouldn’t make any difference.